When he called me the first time, he didn’t sound uncomfortable. He sounded extremely confident and I don’t think the tame, friendly nature of the one on one conversation was an issue during sessions. He preferred to spend more time in the beginning of the relationship on the telephone and computer as a way to establish the new relationship or not. If you intend to get to know someone better or want them to believe you want to know them better, you’ll invest time into the conversation and maybe enjoy the quality of the conversation, the novelty or both. Our quality conversations usually don’t begin with a sense of immediate sexual urgence.